10 Reasons You Will Never Amount to Anything
March 5th, 2008 | by Jeniffer |1) You won’t try.
This one is a biggie, and pretty obviously if you don’t try, you won’t fail.
But you won’t succeed, either.
You also won’t amaze yourself at your own abilities, never mind amazing other people in your life.
You will never be a leader. How could you be, when you won’t try?
Reasons why people don’t try range from lack of confidence in their abilities to lack of confidence in who and what they are.
Some people won’t try because they fear that, if successful, they’ll never pull the same thing off again.
Some folks fear that trying, even if they succeed, will expose to the world the truth that they are not good enough, do not deserve it, etc.
So they don’t try.
2) You know you will fail if you do try.
Why attempt to do something when you already have made up your mind you will not succeed.
You–write a novel?
Lose ten pounds?
Train for a marathon?
Nah, you’d just fail anyway. Better not to try at all.
So you go back to #1, above, and you won’t try.
At least they can’t say you failed.
3) You have never before done what you are thinking of doing.
If you have never done something before, it can be scarey, intimidating, even, to do it.
But think of the gratification, of the self esteem you will gain, by doing it.
Write that novel.
Train for that marathon.
Lose those ten pounds.
Everything that you seek to do, you very likely can.
Each just requires you to take first one tentative step, then another, then another, until suddenly you’re on your way, and wondering why you didn’t do this a long time ago.
4) Someone or other does it, but they’re millionaires. They can afford the training, the coaches, the bribes, for goodness sake. That is why they are successful!
More than likely they are successful because they have worked very hard to get where they are today.
You can do the same, and knowing someone who has done it before you is a bonus. They can act as a mentor for you.
You can study the ways they did what it is you want to do, learn from their successes and their failures, and help you to get where you want to be as well.
You don’t even have to know them, really.
There is lots of information available about successful people from the internet, the library, and from bookstores.
Whatever you seek to do, someone likely has done it already, paving one way that you could go, lighting up one path.
Even if you choose to take another route, it can be helpful to see what they did that earned them their success.
Also, you can take caution from learning what did not work for them.
5) Your best friend/brother/aunt/third cousin twice removed, doesn’t think it’s a realistic goal.
You know what it is you want from your life better than anyone else can.
If you think it’s realistic, if you think you can do it, then of course you can.
Other people may have their own doubts and insecurities in their lives, which they can reflect upon others.
If they don’t want to be successful at something, that is their business.
You want to be, and that is yours.
6) You just can’t.
I read somewhere, that whether you believe you can, or you believe you cannot, you are correct.
7) Your family has always worked in a certain business, it’s tradition. They would dislike you if you did not do so as well.
Families can be complicated things.
Many times, even though they want the best for each other, there is fear of change to be overcome, or financial stresses which they believe to be insurmountable, or expectations of what it is that each of the family members should be doing with their lives.
Perhaps they have always done blue collar work, and expect everyone to do the same. It has served them well, their lives suit them–why then, should you want to do differently?
They may feel you are somehow insulting their way of life, by wanting to go another route.
Perhaps they feel you believe yourself to be “better” than they are, because you have talents or abilities that they do not possess.
Whatever the reason, they’ll get over it.
Just because they have always done things a certain way, does not mean you are also suited to do so.
Some people are artistic at heart, others intellectual. Some are deeply spiritual. Some are a delightful mix of all three.
Follow your heart and intuition in what you do for a living.
Allow others in your family to do likewise.
Always, let your family members know that you love them, no matter what else happens.
8 ) Your parents’ dream is for you to settle down, have a family, and buy a house.
Again, with the family pressure.
I recall my mom asking me when I was about 18 and explaining that I wanted to be a writer, “Why can’t you just get married, settle down, and have kids, like everyone else does?”
So here I am today, married, settled down, got kids, and I’m a writer.
Sometimes you just get it all!
9) You don’t want to out-achieve your family or friends, because they would dislike you for it.
Negative peer pressure.
People want you to stay as you are, where you are, and not rock the boat.
They may fear that you changing your life will impact on theirs.
They may fear being left behind.
They may secretly feel they are not good enough to deserve a friend/relative like you.
Whatever the reason, there will always be those who will hold their approval of you hostage. ‘I will only approve of you if you do as I say’, kind of thinking.
If someone really feels that way, if their approval or friendship is based on you holding yourself back, on not being true to who you are and what you are capable of, do you really want that kind of person as your friend?
Think about it.
10) You haven’t got the time.
It’s hard to find the time to do important things in our lives.
We want to exercise, socialize, watch television…wait. Watch television?
Stop watching television, and your entire world opens up.
Most of what is on there is garbage anyway.
Why not use that time doing something worthwhile, something that will move you forward toward the life you desire, instead of just sitting there baking your brain into oblivion?
Or carefully examine how you spend the time you are given, and choose to eliminate something that brings you no joy or growth or time with your family.
If not watching television, perhaps you spend a good deal of your day reading emails.
Why not allot two periods of time (one would be better) per day for reading, deleting, or responding to emails, and leave the rest of that time open for other things?
Or don’t surf the net so much (except for The Thirty Day Year!).
It’s amazing, when you start looking at just where the majority of your time is going.
Use your time wisely.
It is here so very briefly, then it is gone.
Have something you would like to add, an experience in this matter? If so, please share! Comments are always most welcome!
